While it might be good to hook up with guys or gals for fun, after a while, you will realize that is more than fun and games. If you are the kind of girl that doesn't mind giving sex to a guy occasionally because you prefer it this way rather than to be in a committed relationship, then you won't mind. However, if he only wants you for sex and not even to call and talk on the phone as friends, you may want to know the reason why. If you leave it as it is, he will use you for sex only. You have to set your own boundaries and rules prior to hooking up or you will be used in the bedroom all the time. The normal way that people meet is to go on a nice date, after which they will start having feelings for each and then that is when they end up in bed.

The reason why this guy only wants to hook up with you could be for several reasons. First, he may not want to be committed to a dating relationship. He may be scared of commitment. He may just need someone to satisfy his sexual needs. It could also be that he has a regular girlfriend, but want to have more of his sexual needs met by someone else. This guy might just want to have some fun outside of his relationship without the seriousness of an ongoing relationship. It could also be that you provide him with the convenience of hooking up. By always being available when he calls is a sign that you are anxiously waiting for him to come over. In addition, you may not have set the boundaries and rules of hooking up in the first place. So, he pretty much has free reign to do what he wants and you accept it.

Many hookup relationships these days start with two people liking each other and deciding to hook up. After hooking up, they realize that this is all they have in common or all they really want from each other. If your hookup partner shows that he only wants you because of the sex, then you should find out why. They will meet up with you only if you promise to hit the sack with them. And if he can get the milk for free, then this is what he will do every time. Of course, he may take you out to a bar for drinks, but after that, he will want you to head directly to the bedroom with him.

It becomes very hard to figure out if the hookup partner likes you or not after meeting just a few times for sex. If you start having feelings for this person, it may not be in your best interest if they don't feel the same way as you do. This can pose a huge problem for you.

If a guy only sees you as a hookup partner, there is a problem with that, unless you don't mind. You should notice the signs that all he wants is sex when he feels like it - without regard to your feelings. If you end up in the hookup category, then he may not see you as dating material. He probably doesn't want to be seen out with you in public and this should be a concern. You don't have to settle for being the person that he bones all the time. If you notice some of the signs that you are just a hookup partner and nothing else, and it concerns you, then it is your responsibility to ask him why and get honest answers.

The night visit is when you know that you are just the hookup partner. You don't see him during the day because he may have another life outside of you or he just doesn't want to be seen with you during the day. He could be leading a double life too. When he does arrive at night, there is hardly any conversation. He just wants to hit the sheets right away. He isn't even interested in asking you how your day went or if you are OK. All he wants to do is to take your clothes off. During the day, he probably doesn't think of you. He doesn't call or text until he is ready to come over at night. If this sounds like your hookup partner, then you need to take inventory. He is using you for a hookup. He is using you as a sex buddy.

If he is always making last minute plans with you and is not consistent, it means that he should not really be taken seriously. If someone doesn't feel like it is important to make advanced plans with you, then is he really worth it. He could be a person that is sending you a text late at night asking to come over. So, instead of being a planner, he loves to be spontaneous and sporadic. This only means one thing - you are not a priority, but an afterthought. He calls or text only when he is horny and not to plan a date or meeting with you.

You know that you are in his sex category when he goes nowhere with you as if you are a side chick. There is no possibility that he will ask for a date with you. You hardly do anything together. All you do is to hang out in the apartment with him. If you are always being asked to get naked on a frequent basis, then you are the person he uses just to hook up for sex. He is not going out of his way to invite you to a romantic date at a local restaurant where his friends might see him with you.

If he doesn't discuss his personal life with you, it means that he doesn't want you to know anything about him or he doesn't think that you are important enough to know details of his life. If you don't know that much about someone who wants to have you in bed all the time, then this is a disservice to you. Most partners tend to discuss things like family, childhood hobbies, and career - the normal things in life. If he doesn't want to tell you about any of these simple topics, then you are just a sex partner and nothing else. It could be that he wants to distance himself from anything that will allow you to get too close to him. He wants to make sure you know that this is just a hookup and nothing else. He doesn't pretend to be overly interested in you. He doesn't want to hear how your day went. He just wants to know when he can come over to see you naked.

Before you decided to hook up with this person, did you both sit down and talk about to what extent you would want to go with the relationship? If you didn't have that talk or discussion, then he has free reign over your time and your life. He may not have wanted to have the talk with you because he already knew of his selfish intentions. He wants to avoid any discussion with you because he knows that he might be held accountable for his actions and you may want to negotiate the terms of the relationship. You won't even get the chance to create boundaries and that is not a good way to start a relationship anyway. If he is only in the relationship for the sex, you won't be given the chance to have the dreaded discussion so you can tell him what you want out of the relationship. There is no perfect time to have this discussion, but the ideal time would be before you jump in the sack together.

If your hookup partner is trying to avoid calling or texting you during the day and wait until later to link you, then he is showing you that you are of the least importance. He doesn't send you a 'good morning' text message nor does he check up on you at work. He is more interested in you when you have dinner and about to retire for the night. And when he does come over at night, he will bang you, freshen up and then leave. He doesn't let morning catch him in your apartment. He tries to avoid prying eyes as if he is hiding something and afraid that he will be caught in your 'cookie jar' when he should be in someone else's 'cookie jar' at the precise time when he went missing.

If he has never invited you over to his place, you should be alarmed, especially after hooking up with him on a regular basis. If he gives you an excuse that he has a roommate, then at least allow you to find that out for yourself. It could be that he doesn't want to have to introduce you to his friends or roommate. One of the reasons for this is possibly that he doesn't see himself being in a long-term relationship. He only sees you as someone he just wants to have sex with.

If he comes over and has sex with you all the time and cannot stay the entire night, then you are just a sex partner and nothing else. If he doesn't sleep over, it means that he doesn't want to spend a lot of time with you. It is a sure sign that he doesn't want to cuddle or have some pillow talk with you. He just wants to hit it and go. It is as if he is running away from getting too close to you. He runs out the door as soon as the sex is over. He doesn't embrace you other than when you are having sex. He doesn't even give you a decent goodbye when he is leaving.

If he refuses to add you as a friend on social media, something is wrong. It might mean that he doesn't want his other friends to know of your existence. You might have sent him one friend requests after another and he completely ignores you or declines to accept any. He doesn't want you to be involved in his social or personal life. It is a clear indication that he is only interested in what you can offer him in the bedroom.

If he hides each time that he sees you or tries to avoid you at all cost in public, then you might want to call it off with him. He is either ashamed of you or just doesn't want to have you think that this relationship is anything, but casual. If you call his name and he ignores you when out in public, you should block his number before he calls you for sex the next time. It is apparent that he doesn't want anyone to know that he is banging you.

He does not use any endearing names such as 'cutie pie, honey, babes or baby.' He probably saves that for someone else who means more to him. He calls you by your name and only calls you by your first name when he needs his need met.

One thing you may notice is that he only places more emphasis on pleasing himself during sex. He doesn't care whether your needs are met or not. If his actions makes you feel as if you are unsatisfied or not being cared for, it might be time to have a serious discussion about what is it that is bothering you. If it doesn't bother you, then all power to you.

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