Everybody, at some point or another, has fantasized about having a threesome. Don't lie: you have too! It's an exciting sexual experience because it is two things at once. It is something you get to share with your partner and it is also something brand new that you get to experience with a new person. Basically it is the best of both worlds! So of course it's natural to be interested in a threesome. Threesomes are also gaining in popularity. In a recent scientific poll, 14% of Americans over the age of 18 have participated in at least one threesome in their life. This is up 4% from the last time the poll was conducted.

Below we are going to go over all of the essential tips that you need to know for having your own gay threesome.

First of all, we should go over what a threesome is and specifically what a gay threesome is. Likely you already know exactly what a threesome is but it never hurts to go over the meaning! A threesome is very simple: it is when three people engage in sexual activity together. Traditionally, sex involves just two people. Adding a third person makes it a threesome! And if you ever have any more than that, it's considered an orgy. So what makes a gay threesome gay? Well, if you are in a heterosexual relationship with your partner and want to initiate a threesome with someone that's the same sexual orientation as you. So if you're a guy in a relationship with a woman, a gay threesome for you would involved another guy. Logic dictates that if you're in a heterosexual relationship, it will only be a "gay threesome" for one of the people in the relationship.

This may seem like an obvious question but it is always worth asking. So why do you want to have a threesome? Likely you want to try something new and experiment. There is something inherently kinky about having sex with two people at the same time. It also can feel a little naughty, like you are cheating with permission. A threesome also gives you an opportunity to be a bit of a voyeur and watch your partner get pleasured by the third person. A gay threesome is especially experimental. Maybe you've been wanting to explore your homosexual side. This would be the first step in that direction! And you get the best of both worlds by having your partner and the third person to have sex with. It's sort of like a sex buffet!

Once you are ready to have a threesome, it is time to find the perfect third partner! Ideally you want it to be a person that both you and your partner are attracted to. This is because you'll both be a part of the threesome so you both should be able to enjoy yourselves! However, some couple treat threesomes as a special treat for just one of the partners so they want to make sure everything is catered specifically to their tastes. Whatever your preference is, make sure you want to have sex with them! It's also a good idea to discreetly vet the potential partner in advance to make sure they are the best fit for a threesome. If you are new to threesomes, you may want to find someone with a bit of experience.

There are two basic options for when you are planning a threesome. You can either go with a complete stranger or someone that you know. There are pros and cons for both, which we have shared below.

Pros and cons for choosing a stranger.

Many people like choosing a stranger for a threesome because it is a totally new person who doesn't know them or have any contact with their social circle. This means that the threesome can usually stay super discreet and there is no risk of anyone finding out. It can also be nice to have a threesome with a new person because they won't have any prior relationship with you, which can make things complicated sometimes. Of course, the good things about having sex with a new person are also the bad things. By getting involved with a stranger, you unfortunately don't know them all that well.

Pros and cons for choosing someone you know.

It is very common to seek out a stranger for a threesome. However some people really like to so it with someone that they know, whether its a casual friend or a coworker. This is because at least it is someone that they know and trust a little bit. You don't have to be worried about anything happening to you and you don't have to worry about ending up in a bad or awkward situation like you would with a stranger. Having a friend take part in a threesome can also feel extra special and intimate. A threesome definitely changes the vibe of a relationship so make sure you have discussed this with everyone before moving forward!

Most people prefer to get involved with a stranger and we advise this too. However, we also think that you should always approach initiating a sexual activity with a stranger with caution. For threesomes, we advise meeting the person in advance. This is partly practical, so you can meet them and make sure that they aren't dangerous or have a nefarious motive. But it is also a bit selfish too. You want to make sure that you have a sexual connection with the person and find them attractive, right? If you don't click then likely the threesome will be awkward. By meeting in advance you can test out the waters and make sure they're a great fit for you and your partner.

This may seem obvious but you should avoid having a threesome with someone you have a crush on. This is because it can get messy with someone you have a crush on. Generally speaking, a threesome should be about sex only. You don't want to start to develop feelings for the third person because that could jeopardize or make your relationship with your partner a little messy or confusing. You could also be using the threesome as an excuse to get with your crush without it being considered "cheating," which is definitely something you don't want to do! You can definitely be attracted to this person, of course, but you don't want it to cross that line into crush territory!

Now that we've gone over the basics of threesomes and what they're all about, we're going to get into some more specific tips. These tips will help you go from the first planning stages of your threesome all the way to what to do at the very end. Follow these and you'll have the best gay threesome of your life!

Bring it up to your partner in an open way.

Bringing up that you want a threesome for the first time can be a little awkward but it has to be done. It is majorly uncool to spring a threesome on your partner as a surprise. They will feel tricked and coerced into doing something they weren't expecting, which is not a position you want to put your partner in, of course! Make sure you talk to them about it so they have time to think about it and be fully on board.

Make sure your partner totally wants to do it.

A threesome is only fun if everyone involved is having a great time. If your partner is not 100% on board then it will likely come through during the threesome. They may be tempted to do it just because you want to and you may be tempted to let them. If that is the case though, the best thing to do is simply leave it until they are ready. Trust us on this one: you want everyone involved to be 100% into it. It makes the sex so much better!

Don't do it at your house.

You want to be comfortable for your threesome, of course. However, we recommend not hosting it at your house. There are a couple reasons for this. One: you should be careful about who you let into your home. If you are engaging in a threesome with a new person, you might not want them in your house just yet. Another reason is that your home should mentally stay a place for you and your partner. By making sure the threesome takes place somewhere else, it keeps your home as a special "together" place.

Establish realistic expectations and boundaries.

Unlike in the movies, a threesome takes planning. No one simply tumbles into bed and knows exactly what to do. You need to take time in advance to discuss all of your boundaries. Find out exactly what each person is comfortable and what you want to be doing. You can have certain things that are off limits. You should also come up with some safe words as well. You can even go as far as planning out some positioning. This doesn't make your encounter boring or anything. Quite the opposite, actually! By going over the logistics in advance, it means you can have a more relaxing time during the actual threesome!

Be safe and create a safe environment.

This ties into a few points before, like not doing it at your house and creating safe words. However, it is worth mentioning as its own point. Always be safe when you are engaging in sexual activities - especially with someone new! You may be having a threesome with a new person but that doesn't mean you shouldn't know about their sexual history. Also always use protection! If you are wanting to get into regular threesomes with various partners, we recommend making sure your doctor visits are up to date and get tested regularly during.

Make sure all parties are engaged.

Again: threesomes are not like in the movies. It is very easy to leave a person out because we are so used to having sex with just one person. Likely it will take some getting used to to make sure everyone is engaged and getting pleasured. Try to be mindful of this. You don't want your partner feeling left out, or yourself feeling left out! By going over some moves or positing in advance you can help to prepare for this. And remember: practice makes perfect!

Make sure to debrief afterwards

This tip may seem a little bit silly but it is one of the most important ones we have. Always make sure to talk about it afterwards. You should find out what worked and what didn't. You should ask what felt good and what maybe didn't feel so good. And you should constantly check in with your partner after each threesome encounter to make sure they're still into it. Like we've already mentioned, you want every party involved to be totally into it!

With all of these fabulous tips and pointers, you will be well on your way to having a great gay threesome. They are so much fun, especially when you are properly prepared for them. So be sure to read this guide thoroughly and pretty soon you'll be a pro. The only thing you need to do now is go out there and find that third partner. So what are you waiting for? Get going and have fun!

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