The dating or hooking up world comes with many terms and quite a few flaws, if you were to use those terms in the way that they should be used. One of those new dating terms is 'recovering fuckboy.' You may not have heard about it, but it is known in the dating world as something negative when it comes to how guys treat women. So, if you are single and looking to hook up, you need to know what this means and how it will affect your dating life. When you know what you are getting into, it will put you on pause and caution in the kind of guys you deal with.

A recovering fuckboy knows how to put on the charm. He will compliment you all the time. He will tell you that he misses you. He will send your roses so you won't reject his sexual advances. Yes, he is still slick in what he does. He goes out of his way to call you before you call him so you can believe that he is changing. He consistently makes excuses, even if he has to lie about his actions. He will tell you he would like to see you often. He will discuss sex a whole lot. That is something he cannot get completely rid of. He will make you feel good by telling you that you are the most beautiful and attractive in the world. In a nutshell, a recovering fuckboy is the guy who is emotionally broken with a guarded heart and bottled up feelings. He has been mean to other woman in an attempt to escape the pain that might be haunting him. While, he might not be a lost cause, he may be a lot to handle for any woman.

It has been two years that the Internet has become familiar with the unusual term 'fuckboy.' This term describes a guy who finds pleasure in sleeping with women, even though; he has no intention or plan to date these women. Some of the men that fit into this category are self centered and selfish and that is why they act this way. Some of them 'want to have their cake and eat it too.' You will always find people who like to take advantage of others, especially when they are vulnerable. And fuckboys look for weaknesses in women that they can take advantage of. Their primary mission is just to get laid. They do not take responsibility for their actions either. However, when a fuckboy has grown up and realized his terrible ways, you will know that he is that 'recovering fuckboy' who is now ready to embrace mature behavior. A recovering fuckboy could go on and even have a serious relationship with a woman who he might call his girlfriend.

So, we know now that people can change their negative ways as a recovering fuckboy can. Let's just say that this person is trying to change his erring ways to become a better person. At least, he is making an effort and so you could give the guy a break, right? Of course! He is on the way to experimenting with a monogamous relationship. However, his past could still be rearing its ugly head in the background as he struggles to do better. It is pretty much like an addict who wants to recover from drugs, gambling, sex or shopping. This person knows that he has a weakness that could come back to bite him. And so, he has to be careful not to go around things that would trigger this weakness. Now he is a 'post fuckboy' who promises to make changes and put his past behind him. But, you have to be cautious here because like the addict, he can go back to those destructive behaviors.

Let's take a closer look at this 'fuckboy' while he is in the recovery phase. He is not much different than he used to be because he is still self righteous and things that he is everything a woman wants. He wants to redeem himself with friends, family and those who know him, but it will take being responsible for his behavior and seeking recognition that he is trying. However, he can still be a 'dick head' since he has traces of the same behavior exhibited in the past. As he enters the recovery phase, he will revert back to his fuckboy ways from time to time and has to be put in his place or realize that this is what he is doing. Let's now see exactly who this guy is.

A recovering fuckboy might love to wear name brand clothes or T-shirts of his favorite football team. He is like a cartoon character and so he will wear clothes to reveal how he feels about himself and others. Initially, he is the kind of guy that wears a V-neck cotton jersey-like shirt. However, once he figures out phrases such as 'intersectional' and challenging,' you might see him wearing his football T-shirt to get into character. He loves the fact that his football T-shirt might show off his broad shoulders or ripped stomach that he has acquired through long hours in the gym. He is very aware of his body and wants to show off things like his tattoos, if he has any.

This is the guy that gets his weekly pedicure and manicure done at all cost. He wants his fingers and feet to be the deciding factor of whether a woman pays attention to him or not. He will even go as far as to take pictures of getting a pedicure and manicure to potential matches that he finds on a dating website. In other words, he is full of himself. And these things are hard to lose, even if he is recovering from worse actions. Even though, he will do his pedicure and manicure, he still wants to assert a level of comfort in his masculinity so that women don't think he is gay. The recovering fuckboy finds joy in paying someone he doesn't know to file the back of his feet and get his feet and hands in shape. However, he feels why do all of that and not have the world see the evidence. So, he will create a video of his pedicure and manicure and put it on his social media page to show off his meticulous ways. He will send the videos to women that he wants to date, about to date or currently hooking up with.

Even though, he is recovering, you will find that this fuckboy will brag about his love for giving oral sex. A fuckboy is selfish and so all that he thinks about is going 180. He loves to rack up points to prove that he is and was good in the bedroom. He doesn't want anyone to think that he has lost his sexual prowess, just because he is recovering from being a fuckboy. He still wants women to know that he doesn't mind getting down and committing to a vagina, licking it like an ice cream cone. Those oral sessions might go for up to twenty minutes, if he is in tune with his craft. As a recovering fuckboy, he has not lost his prowess.

This individual will sometimes mistake someone's personal emotions for empathy or even worse than that. This person might get into a drunken stupor and start quoting things that John Hughes said in his movies. He is also the kind of guy that would love Drake. He will tune into as many as two stories on Instagram prior to responding to a text received from the storyteller. As he continues to recover, you will find him abandoning his past four-hour rule for responding to text messages. He might refrain from indulging in real-time text responses. Before responding or replying to your direct messages, he will try to reaquaint himself with you by watching your Instagram stories or checking out your Facebook status. He might be that fairly good with technology, but he knows enough. However, he may not know that you are aware that he checked out your social media page.

Just as he wants to make his pedicures and manicures public, the recovering fuckboy will order roses at all the bars he visits. He loves to show off his sensitivity for romance and romantic gestures. You will find him making trips to various landmarks that are associated with Morrissey, Bob Dylan and Ernest Hemingway; just to name a few. He will even go out of his way to visit the museum and birthplace of Ernest Hemingway. He will read books, listen to music and not ashamed to let you know he doesn't enjoy a work of art. Rather than working on his personality, he heavily leans on other's masculinity such as the misogynist, Hemingway, woman blaming Bob Dylan and mystery euphemism of Morrissey. He tends to be petty and gravitates towards other men who are recovering fuckboys. This includes David Foster Wallace, Bill Callahan and Ryan Adams.

This recovering fuckboy annoyingly has brought one characteristic from his past and that is being able to smooth out conflicts using iMessage. He will send text based messages that will convince the reader to believe what he is communicating. He can guide you in smoothing out a misunderstanding. For example, if he is late to go hook up with you for drinks while you are visiting out of town, you should expect him to try and fix the situation by coming up with all kinds of excuses that you cannot help, but believe. In other words, he is convincing. Before you know it, he is praising you and going right for the juggler, asking if he can purchase the first round of drinks. You might not even remember that you were irritated before he got there. He will even tell you that the reason for being late is that he lost track of the time. Who does that? It would only be a recovering fuckboy! You could say that this person is better than he was before, but not necessarily 100 percent good yet. He is always about winning and being on top of his game.

The fuckboy is from a different breed. His only intention is to have sex with women, whether they are married, single or have a steady boyfriend. This guy is only focused on getting women's panties off as quickly as he can. Do you think he can recover from this? Many people don't think so. A fuckboy can tell you any story or put on an act, just to get you to do what he wants. He gravitates towards younger girls who are more naive than others. He will be with more than one woman at a time. He will tell you anything to make you believe that he cares about you, but he has an empty heart and no feelings. He is not strong enough to get rid of all of those bad habits and he will have difficulty treating a woman like she is supposed to be treated. He has a mistaken vision of what women symbolize or represent.

At some time in his life, he might get tired of his erring ways, but it make take a strong female to turn his whole world upside down for him to take the recovery path. For his recovery, he may need a woman that will be able to warm up his heart and occupy his mindset. He needs a woman to sweep him off his feet so he experiences what it is like to fall in love. She will be able to help him to battle against his past and embrace his recovery. Of course, his new feelings are going to scare him. He might need help from her on how to handle those feelings. He may be upset with himself in allowing this woman to get him in her traps. He will be mad that he has these new emotions that are hard to get rid of. She is going to have to teach this guy how to trust in her so she can guide him into a healthy relationship with a woman.

Once he starts having strong feelings for the right woman, the memories of his past will come flooding in and he may not know how to deal with it. At first, he will feel like he is losing himself. He doesn't want to be broken. He wants to end up being known as a fuckboy and at the same time, he wants to change. So, he is in the battle of his life. Sometimes, he will revert back to meaningless flirtations. He may end up going on a few booty calls, but feel guilty afterwards. He will always make a concerted effort to change, but at the same time, convince himself of just being a change in progress.

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